So I’d been on match for a few months, I had a lot of great first dates, but never anything more. So I decided to let one of my work pals set me up w/someone. She said her best friend growing up had a brother that has the same effed up sense of humor as me. He’s only in town for the summer and will be heading back to his motherland late August. She showed me some pictures and this guy was the biggest dork face ever. Long musician hair and some weirdly patterned shirts lit up most of the pictures. He played the Sax and many other such instruments so I just chalked it up to musician brain. She got the okay from him to give out his name and number. I was nervous to reach out because so many dates have gone awry. But I grew a pair and facebook friended him… no response, it still said that my request was “pending.” I gave it a few days because he apparently had a gig. I reported to my friend, J, and let her know. She told me to grow another pair and text him. So I did! I was a brave little toaster (movie reference for you lame-os out there) and I texted him something to the effect of, “Hi this is —- I’m friends w/J. I just wanted to introduce myself since we’re facebook friends, how is your night going?” I sent it thinking, hey I have nothing to lose!
A day goes by – nothing.
Another day goes by – still nothing.
A third day goes by – nada.
WHAT THE EFF!
Why would you agree to give out your digits if you won’t even respond or say ANYTHING. I’m pretty sure that he saw my facebook page. It’s not scary and full of emo song lyrics or full of weird cat pictures. Now this isn’t just a random match.com guy — this is a real person that someone vouched for! I’ve had plenty of guys from match not text or call back. Whatever.
What is wrong with people? If you aren’t interested just say something. Most of my dates from match go (seemingly) well and then I never hear back. I only had one guy, I nick named him burrito guy because we went for burrito on our first date, message me that he didn’t think it was a good match. And it stung, yes. But it was good to know so I could move forward and onto a new guy.
There was one guy where I was like — what the — you are too crazy for me and I let him know (in a nice way) and ended things. It wasn’t hard, I wasn’t mean, it doesn’t have to be mean.
Why is it so hard to just say one thing
“I’m not interested”
“I didn’t feel a connection.”
“I had a good time with you but you aren’t what I’m looking for in a relationship.”
(The last one was from burrito boy)
Blerg.
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